When you go through a divorce, there is a flurry of emotion that you feel. You want to point the finger at the other person, but you often have to point the finger at yourself and ask "do you want to change?"
I had a conversation with a friend the other day, who has been struggling with an issue in his own life. He had reached a point where he was done with the problem that he was dealing with. He made it up in his mind that he was done. He wanted to be well.
His decision to stop has created a clarity in his life and mind, unlike any other time in his life. He is free to be himself. He is free to live.
When a marriage deteriorates, it leaves every party involved in a fog. Regardless of whether you offended or were the offender, you need to want to fix the things that broke your relationship. We are prisoners of our habits, mistakes, and choices.
Albert Einstein is often quoted as saying that the definition of "insanity is doing the same things over and over again." Why do we keep doing the same things over and over again? Why do we point the finger at others? Why do we keep doing the sinful things that we do?
Although it is human nature to be a sinful person. I am starting to learn that you have to want to be well or you will not change. You have to want to change in order to be well.
